I have had had the amazing honor to work with Catherine for the past year on her style and how it directly relates to her brand. She is a total rockstar. When we first met, she was having panic attacks most days at the simple thought of putting an outfit together for the day, and now she ROCKS her new looks with MAJOR confidence and joy. I am super excited for you to learn more about her here!
What inspired you to pursue Love Coaching as a career?
I've always been obsessed with love and yet I struggled a LOT in love. Even as a little girl I was asking my mom how come some people were happy in relationship and some people weren't. I realize though, that through my obsession, I never actually did any work around it. I just keep pining for relationship! I couldn't keep a relationship usually for more than 9 months to 1 year without them breaking up with me (yes, every single boyfriend I ever had broke up with me) and then in my last relationship we were "on again and off again" for about 2 years and it was HARD. I was struggling so much and at the time I was involved with coaching and realized that if I could learn how to do pretty much everything, couldn't I learn how to love?! I then realized no one was teaching us anything about relationships and most women were doing exactly what I was doing, getting into a relationship and then just hoping for the best. I realized we could actually empower ourselves to figure out the VERY THING we are all designed to do - love and be loved. After working with the top relationship experts in the country so I could do my own personal healing and then learn exactly how to make love last, I met my now husband who actually PROPOSED to me after 9 months and now I've been with him for 4 years.
I really do believe we are here to love and be loved and women who desire partnership are meant to find it. Everyone has to come to the awakening that it isn't "just going to happen" and that they CAN actually create the love life of their dreams.
When coaching, do you use a specific strategy or do you just go with the flow?
Both :) There IS a map to finding love and I teach from that, it's all an inner healing plus taking aligned action. My clients come into a container with me and I tell them there are a few sessions where I'm guiding and then eventually they come and are just bringing to the table what they are working. My clients have called me the "grounded mystic." Most women love working with me because I combine BOTH skills and tools and spiritual principles. I think I see that is what's missing out there in the dating coaching world. Either people only teaching spiritual principles and "manifestation" or what text messages to send, what to wear in a dating profile and what to say. The BEST relationships are people who are connected to spirit first and then know exactly how to communicate in effective and empowered ways. We do really need to learn how to love.
What is your favorite part about being a Love Coach - the part that excites and lights you up?
Everything about being a love coach lights me up but obviously the BEST part is when a woman after years of being single or years of trying to make love work, meets her man. When I get the text or the email that says "Catherine - I've met him. It feels so easy, it feels so right" when she says "I never knew I could love myself like this!" Witnessing the transformation of women coming home to themselves and then experiencing the love they deserve is everything to me. I believe healthy relationships are what will heal the world!
A woman in love, a woman who is treated well, is a different woman walking down the street. There is nothing, absolutely nothing like the feeling of knowing someone has our back, someone is supporting our dreams, someone will never leave.
What is it that you are trying to co-create when you are working with your clients?
The gift of being a relationship coach is that they are actually learning relationship with me! They get to see their relationship drama played out with me. I am co-creating an epic relationship. A relationship where she gets to experience trust, commitment, respect, empowered communication, and love. The relationship is alive - they learn that they are capable of working through anything, how to self reflect, and most of all how to be accountable to what they are creating. It's an equal relationship and I grow with them.
What do you consider to be your greatest success/achievement so far or greatness lesson?
What a question! Gosh, I think the greatest lesson I've learned is that love is a choice. Nobody is coming to save me, nobody was going to make anything happen for me, and I was the heroine of my life. That we are all capable of creating the life of our dreams. One of my greatest achievements was getting sober - I am sober from alcohol almost 9 years. Meeting Andrew changed my whole world and I love that I get to KEEP learning about love every single day.
We can tell from your work that you love life and feel very blessed to do the work you do. Tell us a little bit more about the coach behind the business.
I can't believe I get to live this life! I am humbled by life, always. I am committed to love. I have days when I doubt myself, when I feel insecure, just like the rest of us. I don't believe self love is a destination, I don't believe there is some "perfect place" where I feel enough and worthy every second of every day. I believe we commit to love, we commit to a life of love and from that commitment we say yes to the lessons, the challenges, the practices that create living confidently and open hearted every single day. The most important relationship in my life is the relationship I have with God - aka Love. Capital "L" love. I've overcome a lot in my life and I think that's why women love working with me. They trust me, my story, I'm not teaching them just because of my expertise but because I've walked through it too. I've lived it and that's how they know it's possible (even when they have the voice that says they will be the "special" one where it doesn't happen!). I am always learning and growing and believe the best work we can do on ourselves is work that keeps us humble and vulnerable. I make sure I am always in a position where I have to be vulnerable and being a coach is very vulnerable! Every time I post something or make a video and putting myself out there I feel vulnerable.
Before we started to work together on your style, what did you feel was lacking for you...or that you would enjoy support from a stylist on?
Before working with Kate I would have panic attacks walking into my closet, no joke. I LOVED clothes and would buy lots of clothes but when it came time to put an outfit on in the morning I would freeze and panic. I remember envying all of the women in my life who would effortlessly put an outfit together when it would be so hard for me. I lacked confidence around my style and was quite afraid of being bold or trying new things. Kate helped me so much with that - how to be bold. I wanted to stop having panic attacks. I wanted to feel more confident putting outfits together. I wanted to figure out what my style even was!
Why me? What about working with me made you say - YEP! She's the one!
Everybody chooses the person who is CONFIDENT with what they are doing, that was my experience of Kate. Like, damn she knows her stuff and she's proud of it. I felt like she really wanted to help me, she challenged me on certain outfits and I was willing to give things a try because right away I felt like I could trust her. I loved her style of course too!
What have you felt, realized, achieved through us working together?
I feel so much better putting outfits together. I am more willing to try new things and follow trends. I no longer have panic attacks (so good) and love my clothes. I love that my brand has come alive and I feel like me in all my photos. I also love that I get to not just be "one thing." Having a stylist helped me see that of course it's how I FEEL in the clothes that make a difference too. Having Kate "on hand" really was everything - being able to call her and say "I have an event coming up - help!" and then pack knowing exactly what I was going to wear was a game changer.
What feelings do you experience now that you have a stylist on your "team"?
I guess I just said it in the previous question! I don't have to figure it all out on my own. There's peace in my heart and excitement. I also have Kate pick out clothes for me and I love, love, love those packages! I love continuously being challenged try new outfits and stretch myself.
What would you tell the world if you had a megaphone and everyone could hear you?
You are worthy and deserving of the life and love you dream of! No matter what has happened before this moment right now, you have the power to change how your story goes. If you desire love, if you want partnership, it's meant for you. PERIOD.
Any exciting programs or coaching opportunities in the pipeline?!
Yes, Yes, YES!!! The most exciting program I have ever created - Committed to Love. It's a 6 month program for women who want to find love and experience epic partnership. I combine everything I've ever taught and learned into a 6 month healing journey to open hearts, heal fears and doubts, and learn the skills to make relationship last. The most powerful work I've ever done is group work and women need each other. The one thing I've done right is always ask for help in the course of my lifetime and I am who I am because of that. I have never been so excited about a program and it's launching next month!
Do you have a motto or favorite quote?
All my friends make fun of me because I am literally the quote woman. I always have one on hand and memorize so many. I really love Rumi and one of my favorites by him is "“The minute I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along.” ― Jalaluddin Mevlana Rumi and "Even after all this time, the Sun never said to the Earth 'you owe me' see what happens with a love like that? It lights up the whole sky" - Hafiz.
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